44. The Unbothered

The horrors of the ocean are deep and would tear apart anyone apart, yet we find THE UNBOTHERED completely unphased: having a tea party for one, on the sea floor, pinky up as sharks swim around the skeleton.   And, why should Playful fret?  Sharks crave meat, sinew, and lifeblood-- not bare bone.  There's nothing to gain from the skeleton that the sharks would want.  So, it's time to enjoy a cuppa tea with those worries unfounded.    When THE UNBOTHERED is present, the Querent is being reminded that not everything requires an interaction on your part.  Ask yourself if you feel the need to get involved out of legitimate care, or if you're simply defending your ego/honor?  If the latter, remember that people will always have their own narratives about you; it's better to let your continued actions speak for your character, instead of jumping in defensiveness.  Let "them" say what "they" would say about you; if people don't want to associate with you off of rumors, they're not worth having as associates.  It's no skin off your nose.
 

The Shadow Suit addresses deeper layers and life themes, while asking us to make longer-term commitments and changes to our habits.  How can we fully embrace the experiences that make us more deeply human, and spiritual?

Could relate to: rumors & unflattering tales told, existing beyond drama in group dynamics, failure to meet others unreasonable expectations.


Key Questions:

  • Does this information truly affect me?

  • What changes if I don't interact?

  • Does my ego need defending?

  • Regardless of what people say, what is actually true?

  • How do I maintain my composure, even when pressed to be nasty?

YES/NO: SURE, WHY NOT!