51. Fhoebia

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Oh, lovely one. Why cry or flee?
I'm only what you make of me.

FHOEBIA is neither a friend nor a foe, but asks simply to be appreciated in her fullness. She's alluring in her wildness and spontaneity, impossible to forget but surprising when present.  Stuck halfway between fascination and pain, FHOEBIA's presence in a reading reminds the Querent to ask how much fear is reasonable in a given situation, and adjust to process those fears. After all, some things need to be managed regardless of our feelings surrounding them.  While FHOEBIA's grip is powerful to other people, she just can't seem to get it on herself; to ground and balance, confront your fear and advise yourself as if you were a friend, which may limits negative self-talk and can bring things back into perspective for productive coping.

The Shadow Suit addresses deeper layers and life themes, while asking us to make longer-term commitments and changes to our habits.  How can we fully embrace the experiences that make us more deeply human, and spiritual?


Could relate to: fixations & fascinations, hyper-focus on possibilities (to the point of overwhelming), choice paralysis.


Key Questions:

  • What things make this fear valid?

  • What do I feel my fears say about me?

  • How do I self-soothe in times of high stress?

  • How can I ask for help when I'm stuck with something?

  • What's one fear I wish I didn't have in this situation?

  • How can I work towards being fearless?

    YES/NO:  NOT RIGHT NOW -- Balance first, then answers.